Dating

Doug and Debbie Downers

Doug and Debbie Downers

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) If you are single, looking to date, in a relationship, engaged, or married, there is one piece of advice I would like to give to help you hopefully attract and keep a great partner and spouse in your life. This is, be careful and watch to minimize your level of negativity. Negative comments and attitudes towards yourself, others, and life in general is draining, depressing, and an overall downer.

2016-12-18 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Healthy relationships, Unhealthy relationships, Communication
Rescuing the Damsel in Distress

Rescuing the Damsel in Distress

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) In a previous article, I wrote about how some women tend to be attracted to and choose to be in a relationship with "the bad boy". Men also have a tendency to get involved with a troublesome type of relationship choice: the damsel in distress. A damsel in distress is basically any woman who is very troubled emotionally, practically, or otherwise, which is attractive to some men. This usually

2016-12-08 Randy Gilchrist Understanding men, Understanding women, Dating, Healthy relationships
Whittling Down Your Dating Pool

Whittling Down Your Dating Pool

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) Sometimes in dating, you might find yourself liking and being attracted to more than one potential partner. Or, sometimes you might be dating more than one person at the same time. Eventually, it comes to a point where you need to make a decision: date one, end the relationship with the other, or end the relationship with both of them. Perhaps you begin to feel guilty. Perhaps you become concerned

2016-11-29 Randy Gilchrist Dating
The In-Laws

The In-Laws

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) It is said that when you marry someone, you also marry their entire family, for better or worse. To date and marry someone, it can be wise to pay attention to who and what you may be taking on with their extended family. Some in-law relationships are easy and harmonious, others are contentious with a lot of friction, and yet others are minimal or even non-existent, especially when they live far away.

2016-11-27 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Healthy relationships, Marriage preparation, Conflict resolution
Double Standards in Relationships

Double Standards in Relationships

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) According to the Webster dictionary, a double standard refers to "a situation in which two people, groups, etc., are treated very differently from each other in a way that is unfair to one of them". In relationships specifically, a double standard occurs when one partner is allowed to engage in certain behaviors or habits that the other partner is not allowed to do. The hypocrisy of such double

2016-11-21 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Communication
Are All the Good Ones Gone?

Are All the Good Ones Gone?

A common refrain I hear in the LDS singles community goes something like "all of the good ones are already taken", "all of the good ones are already married", "there's nobody left", etc. That's not really true, but the assumption exists for a reason. It's true that when we pass our early 20s, the remaining singles will have lived more life and accumulated more experiences. These additional life experiences generally include marriage, divorce, children/potential blended families, sexual

2016-11-14 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Healthy relationships
Accepting Singlehood?

Accepting Singlehood?

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) Tired of being single? Tired of trying to find someone over the months, years, even decades with no luck? It is very common and understandable to feel sad, frustrated, and even hopeless. Worn out from such feelings over time, many LDS young adults and mid singles can become tempted to give up. Singles can start to think things like, "maybe I should just give up", "maybe I'll just accept that I'll

2016-10-21 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Psychological health
Being Attracted to the Bad Boy

Being Attracted to the Bad Boy

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) So, what is it about the "bad boy"? How is it that such guys are often so attractive to so many women, both in and out of the church? Knowing that they are "trouble", how is it that so many still seem to command so much attention and attraction? What is so exciting about troubled men, when other often nicer and more respectful men are deemed too "boring", "nice", or deemed "just friends"? How is this

2016-10-10 Randy Gilchrist Understanding men, Understanding women, Dating, Healthy relationships
Hanging Out or Dating?

Hanging Out or Dating?

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) In the 2000s and especially the 2010s and beyond, both in and out of the LDS scene, it seems that dating today is different than it has been in the past. Technology, the media, shifting standards, and other modern changes have had a ripple effect in the dating arena. One of the many changes occurring lately is the evolution from "courting" in the 1940s and earlier, to "dating" from the 1950s to the

2016-10-03 Randy Gilchrist Dating
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) In 1962, rock and roll legend Neil Sedaka released his most famous hit, "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do". Lyrics: You tell me that you're leavin', I can't believe it's true! Girl, there's just no livin' without you. Don't take your love away from me. Don't you leave my heart in misery. 'Cause if you go, then I'll be blue, Breakin' up is hard to do. Remember when you held me tight, And you kissed

2016-09-26 Randy Gilchrist Dating
Would the Grass be Greener  in Another Relationship?

Would the Grass be Greener in Another Relationship?

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) When considering someone to date, when in a dating relationship, when engaged or especially when married, a normal human tendency both in and out of the church is to wonder if "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence". In other words, we wonder if another relationship besides what we are in would be better. Maybe someone else would be better looking, nicer, richer, more fun, better with

2016-09-13 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Healthy relationships, Communication
First Impressions

First Impressions

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) First impressions are the initial idea you create about what a person is like/others create about you, based upon initial cues like tone of voice, body language, facial expressions, first words, and other immediate/superficial factors. Sometimes, initial impressions end up different than how we end up feelings towards or about a person. However, more often than not, the initial first impression we

2016-08-29 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Communication
Developing Dating Confidence

Developing Dating Confidence

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) A lot of times in the dating world, LDS singles can suffer from a lack of confidence as dating partners. Sometimes a person's low dating confidence comes from a lack of experience. Other confidence issues arise from rarely going out/dating, being previously "dumped"/rejected, or other previous negative dating experiences. Of course, a lack of dating confidence can also originate from a person

2016-08-22 Randy Gilchrist Dating
Developing a Positive Attitude with Dating

Developing a Positive Attitude with Dating

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) Single and LDS? Tired of the singles scene? Tired of the meat market? Then you are not alone. Many others in your situation have similar feelings. Perhaps previous dating has been unsuccessful. Maybe you have been let down, hurt, or frustrated in the past. It could be that previous promising relationships ended poorly and left you negative and pessimistic with the dating scene. Maybe after a

2016-08-11 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Healthy relationships, Communication, Psychological health
How to use Facebook effectively to meet people

How to use Facebook effectively to meet people

My husband and founder of LDS Dimension, Shawn Gordon, and I also run a group on Facebook called LDS Dating, which provides another way to meet and interact with people. After watching and helping many people meet both here and there, we have talked about things that can help people be more successful in our Facebook group. Here is the list we put together. 1.DO get involved in conversations on posts. This allows you to see who has similar ideals as yourself and may lead to continuing

2016-08-11 Carly Gordon Dating, Healthy relationships, Communication
Is He or She Compatible?

Is He or She Compatible?

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) Dating in the LDS community is flush with emotion. Is he or she the right one? Are we really compatible? Should we get engaged? How can I know for sure? These are critical questions. No pressure, but consider this classic general authority quote from President Gordon B. Hickley: “The Lord has ordained that we should marry, that we shall live together in love and peace and harmony.… The time will

2016-08-03 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Healthy relationships, Spirituality