Marriage preparation

Marriage and Relationship Quotes

Marriage and Relationship Quotes

As a clinical psychologist and member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I have shared many quotes from general authorities with my clients over the years who are fellow members. In this article I will be sharing several quotes that I’ve found has special significance and direction for single church members especially (regarding marriage, relationships, gender, etc.). I feel some of these quotes will be what some members were needing to read at this time in their lives

2019-07-01 Randy Gilchrist Marriage preparation
Vs Loneliness

Vs Loneliness

Instinctively and spiritually, we all have certain feelings and yearnings that serve to prompt us to action. One of the most primal, powerful feelings existing in us all is a desire for connection, companionship, and relationship. The relationship between a man and a woman is a powerful thing. So when we are without that kind of main connection in our lives, it is natural and appropriate for us to feel subtle to strong feelings of loneliness until we have that relationship. Utilized correctly

2019-06-23 Randy Gilchrist Marriage preparation, Psychological health
Why Marriage Matters

Why Marriage Matters

A modern attitude in the world today is that marriage doesn’t matter. Accordingly, marriage rates around the globe are plummeting versus previous years and decades. Much of modern philosophy takes the position that marriage is just the subjugation of women. That it is limiting and just gets in the way of career development, travel, shopping, fun, hobbies, etc. That it just leads to having kids, which traps you, is a drag, and might be good to delay or forgo altogether. So as members of the

2019-06-16 Randy Gilchrist Marriage preparation
The Differences Between Member Couples  and Non-Member Couples

The Differences Between Member Couples and Non-Member Couples

My first session of psychotherapy was in Logan, Utah in February, 1997 (during my master’s program at Utah State University). From then until now, I have done thousands of couples therapy sessions with both members (of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints), as well as non-member couples. This has included those who are dating, engaged, and living together, but mostly those who are married. Sometimes fellow members of the church will ask me what the differences are between member

2019-06-11 Randy Gilchrist Healthy relationships, Marriage preparation
Positive Motivators to Date and Marry

Positive Motivators to Date and Marry

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com FREE Online Dating Being members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we know the church’s stance on marriage: that we need to do it. That we need to search it out and make it happen the best we can. There is some pressure, some guilt, some obligation underneath it all to have the ideal, traditional married family unit. To reinforce this, conference talks will regularly remind singles of this need, which can often

2019-02-24 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Marriage preparation
Keeping the Law of Chastity While Dating

Keeping the Law of Chastity While Dating

One of the most challenging issues facing all single members of the church is how to date, get engaged, and make it to marriage without crossing sexual (“intimate”) lines and having to work with the bishop in a repentance process. This challenge is often even more difficult when dating partners have been previously married or otherwise have sexual experience, making avoiding trouble that much more challenging. So, how can members of the church get through this dating process without breaking

2019-01-21 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Marriage preparation
Marital Priorities

Marital Priorities

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) A big part of the reason that so many marriages today—including temple marriages—end is because in some way, one or both spouses have a priority problem. Other things become more important than the marriage, the marriage suffers through conflict and neglect, and eventually ends. So when you marry (or marry again), this will be an opportunity to place the marriage as the top priority to give you the

2018-08-20 Randy Gilchrist Marriage preparation
A World Hostile to Marriage

A World Hostile to Marriage

Today, the world promotes a hostile attitude towards all gospel principles including and especially marriage. If Satan can split or prevent marriages, he can break apart families and cause much pain, suffering, and instability in the world. This hostility and opposition to marriage was foretold in the scriptures and in many ways, has been present from the beginning. Scriptures Tell of the Hostile Attitudes A particular scripture has strong implications for latter day hostilities. In a

2018-08-13 Randy Gilchrist Marriage preparation
Learning to Be Happy and Single

Learning to Be Happy and Single

So, you are single and LDS. Perhaps you sometimes feel like an outsider compared to married members. You may or may have been previously married. You may or may not have kids. But either way, for whatever reason, you are currently single. Are you able to be happy as a single member? Yes. Absolutely. In this brief article, ideas will be given to help you be happy during your period of singlehood, however long it may be. First of all, I want to make it clear that in general, you will have an

2018-07-23 Randy Gilchrist Marriage preparation, Psychological health
Inspiration or Hormones?

Inspiration or Hormones?

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) One of the challenges of single LDS dating life is determining if the partner you are dating is indeed, a good person to commit to, which can make dating a stressful time at points. Determining along the way if a relationship is good and healthy enough to proceed with to the next level can be daunting. Questions like, “should I date this person exclusively?”, “should I get engaged to this person?”

2018-03-05 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Marriage preparation
Getting Ready for Another Relationship

Getting Ready for Another Relationship

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) Almost all LDS singles have had their heart broken at least once before. Divorce, failed engagement, or just regular breakups result in different levels of pain, frustration, and emotional scars. Until and unless a relationship is forever, the rest…won't be. Resulting from such pain involves a natural and understandable phenomenon that I call the "self protect" syndrome. This refers to part inside

2017-12-18 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Healthy relationships, Marriage preparation
Should I Give Up Trying to Find Someone?

Should I Give Up Trying to Find Someone?

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) Dating in the LDS Singles community can be fraught with emotional and psychological challenges: frustration, anger, sadness, resentment, jealousy, loneliness, self-esteem challenges, disappointment, bitterness, anxiety, guilt, and so on. Perhaps the most common challenge is the routine feeling of frustration over desiring to have someone to date and eventually marry, only to have relationships fail

2017-08-17 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Healthy relationships, Marriage preparation
My "White Paper" on LDS Singles

My "White Paper" on LDS Singles

In 2013 I was newly single and got heavily involved in the singles scene in church and was looking for ways to improve it at all levels as part of magnifying my calling as the Ward Singles Rep. I put together this set of notes, which doesn't really read like an article, but has a lot of useful information in it for all sorts of people. I've shared it with many other singles reps in the church since the time I wrote it and everyone has gotten a benefit from it. Please enjoy. Overview The

2017-07-30 Shawn Gordon Understanding men, Understanding women, Dating, Healthy relationships, Marriage preparation
Men and Women--Meant to Be Together

Men and Women--Meant to Be Together

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) I always end my LDS dating articles with the scripture from Paul that "…neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 11:11). And it's true. In today's world, there is a common thought that being single is fine, acceptable, normal, even preferred over being married together as husband and wife. However, this is not the Lord's way. Here are a

2017-05-21 Randy Gilchrist Dating, Healthy relationships, Marriage preparation, Spirituality
Successful Marriages Are Those That…

Successful Marriages Are Those That…

This is a topic that I could write a great many things about and make many points. However, I choose to focus on a few points that I have found are very important. John Gottman is understood to be the world's leading expert in marriage and marital research from the University of Washington. For decades he and his research team have been studying couples in his "Love Lab": his research facility to video tape, record, and track and code behavioral interactions between couples. With this

2017-05-07 Randy Gilchrist Healthy relationships, Marriage preparation
Marrying Your Best Friend

Marrying Your Best Friend

by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site) What makes for a good selection in a mate and eternal spouse? Is it someone that you feel an enormously infatuated with? Someone you think about all day long and can't stand being without? Someone that excites and stimulates you? Someone that gives goosebumps and a fastly beating heart? Someone that entices you to be physically affectionate with? Perhaps someone who is very fun, exciting, and

2017-03-19 Randy Gilchrist Healthy relationships, Marriage preparation, Communication