Periodically in my articles I like to highlight quotes that modern prophets/official church sources have to say about important and relevant topics, especially relationships and marriage related topics. In this article I want to share some clear, straight forward quotes on marriage that I hope they can be useful and informative. The main idea is that in spite of worldly attitudes, marriage is still ideal, is important to strive for, and is ordained of God. Please continue to pursue this blessing. I came across a good web page (from comeuntochrist.org) describing the importance of marriage in plain, simple terms for new members/those investigating the church. I have pulled from there what I felt were the more useful quotes and information. I hope you find these ideas useful and helpful as well.
The blessings of marriage can still come, so have faith and keep trying:
We aren’t all given the opportunity to be married in this life. And we don’t all have marriages that last. Not all children are born to a married mother and father, and not all who are married are able to have children. But God loves every one of His children. Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ, if we are faithful to God, He will compensate for every loss or deprivation we experience in this life (Revelation 7:17). When you turn to Him, you will be rewarded with happiness and peace now and after death. As we give ourselves to Him completely, we will each have the opportunity to receive everything that our Heavenly Father has.
The importance of love and selflessness in marriage:
The Bible teaches, “Husbands, love your wives” (Ephesians 5:25) and “teach the young women . . . to love their husbands” (Titus 2:4). Love within marriage can be deeper and more selfless than within any other relationship. It is this type of love that Jesus expects of His followers, and it is the virtue that couples need the most.
The Savior taught, “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13). Couples can learn a powerful lesson from this teaching. As a spouse, you are expected to essentially lay down your old life and to sacrifice many of your personal desires for your closest friend—your husband or wife. The more you are able to put your spouse first and keep your focus on the success of your partnership, the stronger your marriage will be.
Sex is important in a marriage, and not just to have children:
Marriage involves spiritual, emotional, and physical closeness. In the Old Testament, we are taught, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Married couples are meant to be unified in every possible way.
Sexual intimacy is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply, and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). Intimacy is a blessing that can lead to the incomparable joy of children as part of the eternal family unit.
Patience is important in marriage:
Marriage can require hard work. But remembering that it’s founded on love gives us direction. “Above all things have fervent charity among yourselves,” counsels Peter in the New Testament, “for charity shall cover the multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). You’ll make mistakes. Your spouse will, too. Be patient and considerate of each other. Take on the hard times in your partnership “with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4:2-3).
Be kind, hard working, and loving in your marriage; spend quality time together:
It isn’t your spouse’s job to make you happy all the time. Both of you need to work to cultivate happiness in your marriage. So take time to talk, to laugh, to have fun. “Rejoice with the wife [or husband] of thy youth” (Proverbs 5:18) and “live joyfully with the [spouse] whom thou lovest all the days of [thy] life” (Ecclesiastes 9:9).
Being married means you’ll see every side of your spouse: the good, the bad, the strengths, the flaws. Help build your partner’s confidence. Give strength to his or her weaknesses. Give compliments instead of criticism. “Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32).
Marriage was meant to be eternal and you too can enjoy that blessing:
Your life on earth is not the beginning nor the end of your existence. After you die, your spirit will continue to live in the world of spirits and await the day when your spirit and physical body will be joined together eternally in the resurrection. God wants our treasured, loving relationships to also continue for eternity. This eternal union is possible when a man and a woman and families are sealed in holy temples, where those with proper authority from God fulfill Jesus’ promise that “whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall be bound in heaven” (Matthew 16:19).
You are far more likely to get married (or married again) when possessing a positive attitude and an eternal perspective on marriage. You too can have this blessing. Prepare for it, be worthy or it, and continually seek to find, create, and nurture an eternal marriage. Because “…neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.”—1 Corinthians 11:11.”
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|2020-06-22||Randy Gilchrist||Marriage preparation|
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Hello, my name is Dr. Randy Gilchrist (aka "Dr. G"). I am a licensed clinical psychologist, a licensed marriage & family therapist, and a certified hypnotherapist in private practice in Roseville, CA (www.dr-rg.com), practicing since 1997. Also, I am happily married in the temple (Manti) since 1996 and have 4 sons. I am a volunteer writer and contributor to LDS Dimension. I use my training, education, and experience to share insights with LDS Dimension on all things of interest to the LDS dating community. Please read my articles and columns on this site to assist you in your online dating journey. Also, to be considered for an answer in a future Q and A column, please email me your dating/relationship oriented questions to firstname.lastname@example.org. Finally, I also offer a powerful, effective worldwide custom hypnosis recording service just for LDS Dimension members for weight loss, pornography, and many other issues of concern to those in the LDS dating community (please learn more now at www.dr-rg.com/lds; email me questions to email@example.com).